In the spring a young man’s fancy lightly turns to thoughts of love. *
You can feel it in the heat of the sun, see it in the buds on the trees, hear it in the excited chirping every morning. There’s a charge in the very air. And those thoughts of love soon turn to something more…
That’s right. I’m talking about Commitment.
Now, here’s a word that gets bandied about so much lately, it’s kind of losing its edge. We lose the weight of it, the implications of saying it. We’ve forgotten its power.
A few weeks ago I was at a friend’s wedding. Listening to the words of the celebrant and hearing the vows, drew me back to my own experience of those vows. I reassess what we said at our wedding and ponder how we’ve gained strength (or strayed) from them.
The purpose of marriage, of publicly declaring your commitment to another, is that it provides a container in which to pour your relationship. It’s the safe space where you can sift the good from the bad. It’s the bucket of mortar from which you can start to lay the foundation for the relationship.
And this isn’t exclusive to marriage. The idea holds true for any relationship – personal or business, internal or external.
So here I am, weeks later, pondering all sorts of commitments in my life.
It was about a year ago that I made the commitment to show up in this blog every 2nd week to share thoughts, insights and practical advice with my clients & followers. (It took until July to get the actual ball rolling, but the intention was in place last April.)
It’s been remarkable to witness that decision coming into fruition. Despite fears that I’d get tired of it, or the occasional bout of writer’s block, I’ve managed to follow through. Sometimes the results are better than others, but I can feel my own comfort & dedication to both the craft and my audience blossoming with time & effort.
The commitment has been the glue that’s held my decision in place.
Now there’s a word that always makes me think of my heart. It’s been beating (non-stop!) since 8 months before I was even born…and it’ll continue as long as I do. That amount of dedication fills me with unsettling amounts of awe. I’m completely undone by the idea that the Life Force is driving that action for me.
To go even deeper, a commitment by my spirit to incarnate sparked the driving force of my entire existence. The decision is made, the wheels set in motion, and there’s nothing to do but follow the ride to its completion.
It’s when I think of that steadfast gesture, by my soul and the Universe together, on my behalf, that I understand my own responsibility within that commitment.
I’ve been talking a lot recently about self-love, about self-care as a daily expression of that love. As for any beloved, it’s daily action that solidifies the foundation on which the relationship grows.
I commit to my own self-care & health as necessary to carrying through the intentions my soul has laid out for me in this life.
I’m getting kind of heavy here – are you still with me?
Let me put it another way:
When you take the time & effort to look after your health, you allow the best manifestation of your Self to shine. You afford yourself the strength & energy to show up fully for your family, your work, your community, your environment.
You’re able to live the most enriched version of your life.
Because that’s the ultimate aim, commitment is one of the first things I require from my clients. I’m working on a contract they’ll sign, but for now, it simply takes the form of payment in advance.
Paying money is a concrete way of saying, “I’m all in!”
This (or any) type of pledge makes a statement to both the psyche and the Universe, so that they can align with your objective, and start working towards the picture of better health you hold.
Making that commitment means there’s a greater chance you’ll follow through.
It’s like when you take a course. You pay your tuition and get ready to work. And sure, who the teacher is will have a certain influence on your success, however, we all learned through high school and college that you get out what you put in.
Your chances of a satisfying experience are greater when you show up, fully present, to the lectures, when you read the required materials, when you apply yourself wholeheartedly to the assignments.
Same with your health. I’m merely a guide. Your chances of improving your health & well-being depend on how present and engaged you are to the process.
Which gets me to one last, but oh-so-important piece:
Commitment is NOT synonymous with perfection.
Like marriage, like school, like any part of life really, there’ll be good days and there’ll be days when you just want to pack it all in and say “F&#* It!”
Like marriage & school, the bad days provide the room for growth. Mistakes show us where we need to learn. Improving your health also requires compassion, kindness and forgiveness as much as any relationship or endeavour.
The commitment keeps you tethered to the path.
Back to the charged energy of Spring.
In the spirit of renewal, I’m ready to bolster the walls in my own life by openly stating:
I am committed to stepping up my own self-care with a deep homeopathic detox.
I have a feeling it’ll be a challenge on many levels, but the delicious promise of what it offers on the other side stands taller in my mind’s eye than a few weeks of discomfort.
Your turn! WHAT ARE YOU READY TO COMMIT TO THIS SEASON?
When you share in the comments, you open the possibilities for others.
* from Locksley Hall by Alfred Tennyson