I’m so glad I embraced that new tradition of coming up with a Word of the Year. It has so much more staying power and room for possibility, rather than resolutions for things you’ll jump into whole-heartedly for 3 weeks, then let fizzle out and gather dust with those last few Christmas ornaments you keep forgetting to pack away.
For 2015, I chose Trust. It held a place of honour on my first-ever vision board (unless you count my adolescent bedroom wall). It underlay the decisions I made in work and life. It peppered my parenting. Trust allowed me to take a step back from the worried, need-to-control-every-outcome-in-my-life thoughts that spin around my head at 3 am.
A year based on Trust opened the space for more possibility and best of all, those possibilities showed up!
- As deep connections with new colleagues and clients;
- As more clients (aka more income);
- As fewer stress-based knee-jerk reactions when the shit hit the fan;
- As fewer inner battles around eating “good” food and steering clear of the stuff that does me harm;
- As professionals trusting me to be the person they needed to flesh out their projects – a reflection of my own trust in having the ability to step up and be that person;
- As fewer arguments, more ease and fun, with my sons;
- As a more honest look at who I am and what I want/need.
As magical as the power of commitment to a word is, there’s magic in the discovery of the word in the first place.
How to Choose a Word
There are plenty of business and life coaches around with tools to help you find your word for the coming year. Some of them are based on core feelings, some on core values…or a combination of the two. (If you want a specific reference, let me know and I’ll send you some links.)
In the end, it comes down to being aware of what you say, what you write, which topics draw you in as you read – notice the words and themes that come up often. It’s the way that your soul gently invites you to explore what’s most important for your growth and healing over the next 4 seasons.
This is how it’s transpired for me in the last few weeks:
I’ve given a lot of attention to stepping away from letting the list of shoulds dictate my day, and moving towards decisive action.
Small moments of dishonesty – “white” lies, omissions, denial – mostly to myself – have been coming out of the shadows and tapping me on the shoulder for appraisal.
I noticed ways in which I held myself back from saying what I fully needed to say to a client, in a supervision group, to my child, to my husband. …Or let it out in a passive aggressive way.
I noticed ways in which I shied away from giving all I could have in a situation – food for a pot-luck, donations, gifts.
During an energetic medicine session, my throat became tight at the same time as the practitioner started coughing.
In part it was all about doing over not doing, saying over holding back. But as I sat with it, really let it all sink in as I journaled about it, the word came out loud and clear.
Perhaps it could be seen as an extension of the trust I built last year. Where trust required a bit more surrender, expression requires a verb. It’s the movement, the action, the saying of the words that come up when I trust myself. Expression is a fully honest manifestation of me – poured forth into a safe container held by people I trust to receive it.
I have a feeling it’ll prove to be the “master class” for what I learned about over the past year. As I prepare to commit to its development through 2016, I recognize it will also come with a more expanded sense of responsibility, as who I am is more openly expressed.
Regardless, I’m already excited about the magic it will create in my health, my relationships and my life.
What do you need more of in 2016? Would finding a theme word help you achieve it? Let’s find out: write your word here and open the possibilities for yourself!
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