It’s a quiet day. You’ve finished up that contract before your vacation. The kids really like their new day camp. You feel pretty good, considering the roller coaster you’ve been on recently. You’re excited thinking about that new chicken recipe you’ll try tonight.
Then your mother calls to say that your father’s in the hospital again. It’s nothing major, but at his age, isn’t everything potentially major?
All thoughts of dinner leave your head.
In fact, your appetite gets kicked to the curb for the next few days, even once you know everything’s okay. Then your mystery cramps come back. You’re bloated and have to rush to the bathroom every couple of hours.
It’s how you felt before you admitted your marriage was done. It’s how you felt when you were finishing your Masters, when you were applying to university,… As long as you can remember, all your stress has gone to your belly.
You chalked it up to hormones, blamed it on your menstrual cycle.
You went through phases of fat-free diets, sugar-free diets, candida cures and giving up gluten. You’ve been tested for allergies and GERD with inconclusive results. You’ve taken Tums like candy and occasionally graduate to Pantoloc.
Some things help. Some don’t.
Some help until the next upset comes, and you start to understand the pattern.
You (over)react readily to everything. You feel things so deeply.
I bet you grew up hearing that as if it were a bad thing.
“You’re so sensitive!” thrown out by other kids when you cried from missing the ball.
Your mother apologizing to strangers for your tantrum with, “she’s very sensitive.”
You eventually learned to curb your reactions to life so as not to upset other people and not draw unwanted attention to yourself. Come to think of it, that’s when your belly started acting up.
Yes, you’re sensitive.
Your senses are highly attuned to your environment – that’s a good thing!
The 5 senses are the feelers that inform your nervous system of impending danger. Being able to recognize when you’re not safe is a strong survival instinct!
You’re sensitive also means that you are likely vulnerable to the subtler energy all around you:
- your mother’s anger at your father as she quietly makes dinner;
- the noise & chaos of all those kids in the class;
- the overwhelming vibrations of the people on a crowded subway or at a concert;
- the electromagnetic impulses whirling around your TV and computer and cell phone.
You are picking up more than you know, more than you want, and it plays into how much you can tolerate within your usual day.
With such a fine-tuned nervous system, your emotions are also closer to the surface, quicker to react.
Emotions are the movement that allows you to respond to that potential danger, and get you to safety. (Read more about the movement of emotions here.)
The French word for sensitive is sensible.
Sensible. The word we use in English to denote rational or logical. Considering that your survival is at stake, I’d say it’s rather sensible to be sensitive.
How your belly gets involved
A good portion of your nervous and immune systems are active in your digestive tract. Makes sense, considering that it’s one of the main ways we interact with the outside world, taking it directly into our bodies.
Serotonin, the neurotransmitter that makes us feel good and calms us down as part of the relaxation response, plays a role in appetite and digestive capacity.
If your nerves are reacting strongly to life, then so will your digestion.
It’s not just you. We all do: butterflies in the stomach when we’re nervous, can’t eat or eat too much under stress.
The more sensitive your nervous system, the more you’ll feel in your gut. The longer your digestion gets jostled by your stress level, the more it will lead to physiological issues and problems related to inflammation. Think about it, the “inflammation” itself is a direct manifestation of reaction to stress and emotion (anger).
Certain foods will be a problem for a variety of reasons.
- Overstimulation from a food you eat all the time, in the same way you can get “sick” of the same pop song coming on every radio station every hour.
- An underlying allergy to a food
- Inflammation or genetic conditions impairing your ability to digest certain food
- Poor quality foods, like trans fats, refined sugar, rancidity or mold, that your body doesn’t recognize as food and provoke inflammation
- Reactions to the additives, bleaches, preservatives, fertilizers, pesticides, herbicides and radiation meant to keep our food safe
- The way food was grown, harvested, processed, transported and handled by retailers will effect the energy of the food itself. If you’re highly sensitive, you may also be picking up on the vibrations and emotional states of the people involved in getting it to your table.
What can you do about it?
Here are but a few ideas to get you started:
Eat in a state of calm – engage the relaxation response by taking deep breaths or take a moment to give gratitude before you eat.
Meditate, to calm your nervous system in general.
Ground any anxiety with movement or by getting out in Nature regularly.
Eat local and get to know the people who grow and prepare your food.
How does stress show up in your body? When you share your experiences in the comments, you open the possibilities for others.
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